Building Bridges

 As storyteller Elizabeth Ellis says, "You can't build bridges out of soap boxes." Here are examples or methods of bringing diverse groups together.


Stories / Newspaper Articles/ Videos / Songs



August 18, 2017 - San Antonio, TX  Several years ago, the  Episcopalian Church of Reconciliation , whose congregation is primarily white and wealthy, opened up their property to their neighborhood, which is mostly Hispanic and black. The church built  a basketball court and a community garden. That basketball court saved Frederick Jones’ life. 

Now, the church has decided to build a community center once they find out from their neighbors what THEY would want in that community center.





June 26, 2016 - Indianapolis, IN   At the U.S. Conference of Mayors, Lady Gaga gave a heartfelt and wise talk advising everyone to use relentless kindness to build bridges. And the Dalai Lama was sitting next to her :-)


Compassion Games

September 9-24, 2017 - The World This video demonstrates how the Compassion Games can change cultures - even in prison and in a high school plagued by gang violence. This is "climate change" for good! There are hundreds of games worldwide this September.




How One Man Convinced 200 Ku Klux Klan Members To Give Up Their Robes

August 20, 2017  Daryl Davis is a blues musician, but he also has what some might call an interesting hobby. For the past 30 years, Davis, a black man, has spent time befriending members of the Ku Klux Klan.

He says once the friendship blossoms, the Klansmen realize that their hate may be misguided. Since Davis started talking with these members, he says 200 Klansmen have given up their robes.




Empathy Matters: Making Art in an Unkind World

August 16, 2017  A writer at Hallmark wrote: I caught myself thinking, “There’s nothing I can do.”

Except that’s not true. I can do something about it, particularly as a creative.
As Creatives, we are translators of our human experiences.
We make things that have meaning.
We help make the world make sense.
We help bring poetic order to the chaos.
Through our creativity we can connect one human being to another. 
And, I believe, we can connect human beings across our differences. 

Compassionate Communication
Clinical psychologist Marshall B. Rosenberg, author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (Puddledancer Press, 2003), is generally credited with creating and promoting this approach to communicating. He theorized that most communication is an effort to get a core human need met and that if we train ourselves to home in on the deeper, unspoken needs underlying and informing harsh language, we can respond more effectively.

Rosenberg’s technique for communicating compassionately relies on four core steps:

  • Observing a situation without judgment;
  • Discerning which emotions are being triggered in the situation;
  • Connecting those emotions to the underlying needs that aren’t being addressed; and
  • Making a reasonable request of the other person.
More info: https://experiencelife.com/article/compassionate-communication/
                 Center for Nonviolent Communication





National Storytelling Network's Circle of Excellence and Lifetime Achievement award winner Elizabeth Ellis writes about "Girders and Rivets: Some Thoughts on Bridge Building."


https://winningtales.wordpress.com/2013/01/03/old-joe-and-the-carpenter-a-tale-from-appalachia/  "Old Joe and the Carpenter" A traveling carpenter is asked to build a fence to separate the properties of two feuding former friends.



http://www.katedudding.com/where-am-i-from.shtml  Where Am I From – a personal story about what Kate Dudding learned from her DNA analysis.


 http://www.katedudding.com/tent-of-abraham.shtml  The Tent of Abraham – a meeting of an interfaith story circle which brought together strangers – Jews, Christians and Muslims – all people who consider Abraham a patriarch. They listened respectfully to each other’s stories about Abraham, accepting the commonalities and the differences.



American Enterprise Institute President Arthur Brooks shared a lesson from the Dalai Lama on overcoming political polarization.





Heineken presents ‘Worlds Apart’ An Experiment. Can two strangers with opposing views prove that there’s more that unites than divides us? 




It’s harder than ever to have a conversation with someone we disagree with. So, this past month, StoryCorps teamed up with another public radio program, called Indivisible, for an experiment. They wanted to find out if listeners would be willing to record StoryCorps conversations with someone they considered their political opposite.

Can we talk across the lines we draw out between “us” and “them”? That’s what StoryCorps is trying to figure out. In this episode,  listen to three conversations from that experiment. It seems that meaningful conversations between people with different viewpoints generally start by respecting each other. Also find out how you can join in by writing to listen@storycorps.org.





What the world calls me is not me. We're all taught how to label people. But my label isn't me.



Storyteller Liz Weir from Northern Ireland writes about using stories as part of a peaceful resolution to “The Troubles”.  "If people take the time to listen to another’s story they are paying them respect. Even if the other person holds views which are diametrically opposed to our own, the very act of listening to their stories is important. It acknowledges them as members of a shared society."




A Charlotte church put up a sign about its Muslim neighbors. Then the neighbors answered. Tonight they'll be sharing a meal. 4-13-17




We live in a time where we quickly put people in boxes. Maybe we have more in common than what we think.





StoryCorps is asking for your help to ensure that listening to one another — truly listening — continues to be woven into the fabric of American society. Join the Listening Challenge: bit.ly/ListeningChallenge


Sally Kohn, a progressive lesbian talking head, shares what she has learned from debating people on Fox News. She says that you must be emotional correct, which is much more important than being politically correct. You must find the compassion for those who don’t agree with you,  that kind of compassion that you would like them to have for yourself. This isn’t easy.


A favorite email that she received started: “I’m not a big fan of your political leanings, but I’m a big fan of you as a person.” That’s a good beginning for a real discussion.




Rev. William Barber, Pastor of Greenleaf Christian Church, Disciples of Christ in Goldsboro, North Carolina, offers some words of hope. “People have always stood up.” He established a “Moral Monday” as a rallying point about moral issues, holding race and class together. Maybe it’s our time to stand up. "We will never give up on the heart of this democracy."



Lancaster, PA has been welcoming refugees for years and intends to continue doing just that 2-1-17


https://youtu.be/kYembGqZF94  Heartsong United Methodist Church near Memphis, TN welcomed their new Muslim neighbors in 2010. Their friendships continue to grow.


http://www.thelocal.dk/20170201/this-danish-video-is-giving-everyone-the-feels Danish video which demonstrates the many ways people are similar 2-1-17

 


 A group of people from around the world find out the results of their DNA analyses, and find out they have much more in common than they thought.

                                 
https://www.facebook.com/tpumc/photos/a.318742441485498.99703.117906798235731/1633273970032332/?type=3&theater  Travis Park TX United Methodist Church. 1-31-17



https://ww2.kqed.org/mindshift/2017/02/08/empathy-is-tough-to-teach-but-is-one-of-the-most-important-life-lessons/  Empathy Is Tough to Teach, But Is One Of the Most Important Life Lessons   Dr. Brené Brown explains the importance of empathy and how to cultivate it. The four qualities of empathy, as defined by Theresa Wiseman and presented by Dr. Brown, are:
  1.     Perspective taking – being able to take the perspective of another person
  2.    Staying out of judgement
  3.    Recognizing emotion in another person
  4.    Communicating that emotion – feeling with that person


https://www.facebook.com/mb.gibbons.1/videos/1555515131144946/ A full elevator in an apartment building with everyone but a lady preoccupied with their iPhones inspires the lady to hold an unannounced potluck supper in the hall. Neighbors meet each other and share what they’ve brought. #EatTogether from Canada150


The footage was taken at the Pro Bowl in Orlando, and the PSA turned the Kiss Cam into an opportunity to highlight love’s different forms over the traditional Kiss Cam.  According to the Ad Council, the video featured “real families, couples and friends across different races, religions, genders, sexualities, abilities and ages.”




Megan Phelps-Roper, a former member of Westboro Baptist Church, presented a TED Talk Feb. 2017 explaining how she learned to successfully engage across ideological lines:
  • Don’t assume bad intent.
  • Ask questions.
  • Stay calm.
  • Make the argument for your position.


A group of Syrian refugees were brought to the Vatican for lunch with the Pope in August 2016. Pope Francis says he wants to give a message of hope to all humanity.



https://www.facebook.com/fusionmedianetwork/videos/1342841949116382/ This video explains how annoying, and sometimes how destructive, stupid comments can be to minorities when heard over and over and over again.


At Boca Raton High School, no one eats lunch alone anymore. Senior Denis Estimon, who immigrated from Haiti 12 years ago,  and his friends started a group called “We Dine Together.” The campus has been transformed. “We reach the un-reached,” says teacher adviser Jordan Hernandez.

3 comments:

  1. Uli Derickson, a naturalized American stewardess on hijacked TWA FLT 847 (1989), managed to connect with the hijackers. She happened to know German and Arabic, and was the only one on the plane who could communicate with them, because the only hijacker who could speak English had been bumped from the flight! Uli talked with them, heard about their families, and told them about her childhood as a hungry refugee, and on the spur of the moment, sang a popular post WWII German song was about having no home. The hijacker, surprised, said, “That’s what I feel like.” Her person-to-person connection calmed the hijackers, and while she was not able to save everyone on the flight, she did use the influence she gained to minimize the violence and to get almost all of the hostages released. www.nytimes.com/2005/12/25/magazine/the-peacemaker-of-flight-847.html

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  2. Pulling out a line from the Megan Phelps-Roper talk above: "They approached me as a human being, and that was more transformative than the two full decades of outrage, disdain and violence."

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  3. North Dakota has always been a state that welcomes immigrants, but in some cities the welcome is wearing thin. In this attempt at building bridges, people gathered in a group, and then split into pairs with people they would not otherwise interact with, or perhaps people they disagreed with. They then told each other a story from their lives, and upon reconvening with the larger group, told their partner's story as if it were their own. ihttp://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-39804471

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